Relationships Lessons from Children

Have you ever watched children in a playing field or when a child meets a stranger? One of the things that happens as you watch them you begin to understand something about their character. More often, children will find it easy to mingle and to make friends. Their ability to make new relationships flows almost effortless and within a period of less than an hour they will have become friends possibly for life.

But what drives this quick and sure bonding? I noticed among many things, children easily overcomes any challenge they meet in their relationships. Take for instance, if a child is wronged by the other such a child will at best just cry for a few seconds and the next moment he/she is hugging whoever made them cry. In the course of picking up new tasks, children forge ahead and forget what had happened earlier. They will easily begin playing with toys with- according to the observer- their 'enemies' as if nothing ever happened. They do not forget easily yes, but with ease they proceed to the next task.

How possible is this to adults and those who consciously and laboriously get into a relationship? Many find it difficult to learn from children and to do as children do partly because the level of rationalization has increased but partly because they lack the skills children possess. The following lessons from children can help in cementing the relationships that you have:-
AS far as possible never keep a record of the wrongs of those you relate with: Children do not ever remember how many times their friends have wronged them. For you to enhance the relationships that are so dear to you, do as children do-burn the notes that indicate how many times your partner has gotten into your nerves.
Determine Your focus:- When children are playing, they only have one focus-to derive maximum joy and happiness in what they do. Whether your relationships involve your place of work or your life long partners determine what your focus is. That way its achievement becomes your primary factor of consideration.
Always find a way of overcoming a challenge: Children never give up. In the playing field, a child will compete with his friends whether he wins or not. At that time, even the adults encourage them not to win but to finish a race. The goal is not to be a winner but to overcome the fear of being defeated. Relationships face many challenges, some are too intimidating while others are easily overcome. Isolate them and do find ways of overcoming the very difficult ones, do not fear.
Never give up: As one watches the children this comes out to be a major lesson. Rarely do children give up-whether they want their dads to buy them toys or ride on tricycle of their friends, they will ask and ask until they get it. Relationships are formed on the basis of mutual understanding. While it may not be possible for those in a relationship to move together, the key is not to give up trying to convince the other party about one's opinion. Never give up exploring possibilities of making your relationship better.